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The 4 Agreements; book review

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz ISBN I-878424-31-9
The Four Agreements Companion Book ISBN I-878-424-48-3
This short, easy to read book, and its sequel, both come highly recommended. They are available as 200 page paperbacks and should be accessible at your public library. As easy as they are to read, they may be more difficult, yet are imperative to incorporate into your life!
These four basic rules are purported to have come down through oral tradition of the author as basic tenants of Meso-American civilization. They are each golden as rules.

I recommend you work on them as daily exercises for one month, as it’s been proven that it takes 30 days to establish a new habit upon one’s subconscious.
As an exercise; repeat the words quietly to yourself, as frequently as you can, while establishing an ‘anchor’.
An anchor is a physical reminder that stays with one’s subconscious and reminds it to *pay attention* to what your conscious mind is saying/doing. Ie. by turning a ring around your finger or pressing your fingertips together, you can establish an anchor.
Then, while closing your eyes and breathing slowly imagine what this means to you and how you might apply it to your life. This will incorporate the principles into your subconscious throughout the day. After 30 days of effort these new habits will be established.

1. Be Impeccable with Your Word; speak with integrity, say only what you mean. Avoid using words to speak against yourself or others. Direct your words toward truth and love.
I would add, try using only positive words to describe things, give more compliments and try to keep your thoughts and words focused in the present moment. Learn to stop teasing and gossiping. Have the courage to say what needs to be said, when it needs to be said.

Air = thoughts, inspirations, words and dialogue.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally; nothing others do is because of you! What others do and say is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
This one can be the most difficult because we naturally tend to be egocentric beings. If you can step out of this perspective and try to maintain one that is larger, and all-encompassing, you will be able to side-step many pitfalls.

Fire = passion, intention, and actions.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions; find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can, to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.¬† With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life!
Connecting daily with your heart center then connecting to others through it, allows only your best, most sincere feelings to come through. Displeasure or correction can come from this place of love, and will be more easily accepted by others.

Water = emotions and feelings, heartfelt communication.

4. Always Do Your Best; your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse and regret.
Holding personal integrity in your place of ‘power with’, rather than ‘power over’, will allow you to be the most effective you can be in your life. Putting your efforts toward your ‘daily best’ frees you from the chains of holding yourself to unrealistically high achievement standards. It allows you to be gentle with your Self. By finding compassion within, you will discover that it will be second nature to relate to others with that same compassion. Love starts within one’s Self.

Earth = our physical reality manifest by our thoughts.

Integrity; sound moral principle, uprightness, honesty and sincerity. IMO one must prove personal integrity by communicating it via thoughts, intent, words and deeds.
It will be noticed!

originally published July 17, 2011

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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Respect Your Self

In his book, “Be Yourself, everybody else is already taken”
(yes I read books like these ūüėČ there’s always something to be reminded of…

Mike Robbins has a few quality tips on Self Love;
*Honor & Respect yourself and expect the same in return.
*Forgive yourself for your mistakes, and forgive others.
*Appreciate growth.
*Take care of yourself.
*Speak positively about yourself.
*Accept compliments graciously.
*Celebrate your success.
…..in order to Honor Yourself he lists 10 points;
1. Take care of your needs first, others next.
2. Say ‘no’ when you need to.
3. Ask specifically for what you want.
4. Stand up for what’s important to you.
5. Speak about yourself positively.
6. Rest  ~which reminds me of the acronym;

HALT; Never get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired.
7. Trust Yourself.
8. Request and accept Help from others.
9. Do things you enjoy every day!!
10. Listen to your gut (intuition)
11. Accept compliments graciously.
12. Accept love when it is offered.~

Self Love defeats suffering~ striving~ worry~ and all fears.

When we can stay in our POWER, stay reminded of the glorious creatures that we are, without being swayed by everyday worries or pressures, we can live from a place of power- and peace. Namaste’

originally published July 15, 2011


Posted August 19th, 2012.

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Beltaine – Sacred Marriage Within

Beltaine is the Earth holiday that occurs roughly 6 weeks after the Spring Equinox.
As the young animals have been born at Imbolc, [Feb 2], and awakened upon Oestara, [Spring Equinox], this holiday, Beltaine, [May 2] celebrates the sacred marriage of the god and the goddess. This can be considered metaphorical or symbolic, but also ties into the cycle of the seasons on Earth as well as the psyche of mankind.
A metaphysical view allows for the marriage of oneself~ which may happen at any time, but is especially appropriate to remember this weekend as the Full Moon in Scorpio [psychic depths] wanes and Chiron[the wounded healer] passes the asteroid, Astarte, [signifying passionate love].

Carl Jung pointed out that the psychological marriage of one’s soul is possible as an outward man has an inner woman, his anima, likewise, the outer woman has an inner man, her animus. It is my belief that we are each emotionally ‘bisexual’ at our core and the more enlightened we become upon reflection of our inner Self, the more we can embrace others in their own fullness. To me, transsexuals are people who have become totally honest with themselves and are expressing the side that their soul relates to, rather than the one they are physically born into. Bisexuals are open to embracing the soul of a lover, independent of their physical attributes. Reincarnation states that we are reborn many times into many bodies, of each sex, so that we may experience the fullness of humanity. There should be no shame in knowing the truth of oneself. Expression of authentic Self should be embraced by us all.

I offer this meditation in the hopes that you will meet and embrace the wholeness of your Self:
Beltaine Meditation: [You may want to record this and play it back during meditation. Be sure to include plenty of #pauses, so you can fully experience this inner journey]~
Find a time and place where you will not be disturbed for at least 30 minutes.
Get comfortable and cover yourself with a blanket. Sit or lie down.

Close out all outside thoughts~ focusing your mind on an inner point between your eyes, known as the third eye chakra point, in the center of your forehead#. Relax and breathe deeply a few times, shake your hands or wiggle until you are totally comfortable and relaxed#….
Now~ imagine a beautiful secluded spot in nature, maybe it’s a wooded glade or a meadow awash in wildflowers, or a deserted cove at the ocean or lake#. Walk to a place where you can sit down on the soft grass or atop a flat boulder and feel the sun’s warming glow embrace your body#. You are safe here. This is your eden. All around you is beauty and serenity. All is calm and quiet and peaceful.#
As you look down, you notice a small pool of clear water, the pebbles clearly visible on the bottom. You may hear a trickle of water, or a call of small birds.# Feel the warm breeze stroke your face and stir your hair.# Imagine this place in as much detail as possible. Take your time and relax.# What do you notice?#
~Enjoy the sensuality of nature embracing you, her dear child.#
As you look again into the pool it has become still and you see a face in the water.# It becomes clearer and clearer. It is a reflection of your face, but now it is changing into that of the opposite sex.# See your features soften and change into the anima or animus of your soul. This is your true Soul mate. This is your Self showing the side you normally don’t see.# These eyes pierce into your own eyes and a smile forms on the lips of this reflection.# Feel the love you have for this being.# Feel the connection between you and this reflection.# Consider how your life would be different if you were born the opposite sex?# Feel the desire and pride you have for all of the lovely attributes this reflection shows you; it’s strength, it’s power, it’s beauty and grace, and feel that same desire for you returned. Spend a few moments communing with these thoughts.##
Now, name these attributes and feelings quietly to yourself. Repeating, “I AM _strong/beautiful_.” [attribute]# and repeat until your core resonates the truth of these statements.##
These are the affirmations you are making to your whole Self. As with wedding vows, tell yourself that you will remember for the rest of your waking life, the health and wholeness you feel right now<3 #
Now take your hands and dip them into the water, scooping up fresh, cool water in your cupped hands, and drink it in! You may drink until you feel satisfied.# With each sip, you take in the opposite side of your Self. # With the intake of your opposite side you have wedded your male and female parts into ONE. You are now whole.##
Know that it is okay to love yourself – or be ‘in love’ with yourself; It’s called Self Esteem and is healthy as long as you remember to also share this love with your loved ones, the circles you move in, and outward to the rest of humanity.#
Take a few more deep breaths# and feel the energy of love radiate throughout your entire body. #
Feel your heart center warming and overflowing with the energy of love.# Feel this joy and happiness that fills your being overflow from your heart center into the world. See it wrap the world in its embrace. And feel Peace#
Recognize that we are all One, made of the same material, feeling the same emotions, needing the same love and feel a part of that wholeness.# It is available to you at any time.#
Draw it down into your toes and out into the Earth.# Take a few more deep breaths and return to focus on the weight and solidity of your body. When you are ready, open your eyes.
Run your hands over your body, embracing your head, your face, your shoulders….If you feel tingly or spaced out, place your palms onto the floor and breathe to ground your energy into the Earth.#
Give thanks for this quiet, meditative time you have spent meeting and embracing your double.#

Remember that you can be strong and gentle, calm and assertive, take action and reflect, in equal abundance. You are a unified being, full of the energy of both Yin and Yang, male and female energy and as such, can more fully experience the world. Bright Blessings to You!
~Namaste! The Spirit in me recognizes the Spirit in You!
~Peace and Blessings~

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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For the Glory of the Earth

This year’s Earth Day has arrived without much hoopla or hype. I wonder if people are thinking the holiday has become passe? Isn’t there enough profit to be made on the topic of ‘honoring our Mother’ or does ‘Saving the Planet’ throw people off because it is a challenge too large for the individual mind to fathom?

I see the Earth as a shaggy, wet dog…. she is shaking to rid herself of the fleas and debris she has accumulated. Surely she is a living being. How do we react? Do we scold her and fear her trembling or do we send her love and adapt our actions to her movements? I suppose it depends on your world view. Are you arrogant enough to think you are holding her leash?

I propose we each do what we can on a daily basis; recycle, reuse and reduce our carbon footprints. Buy smart by purchasing products without harmful chemicals or wasteful packaging. Decide what we really NEED and stop doing only what we want.
Then gather together wherever we can, online or in our local parks/coffee shops, to discuss solutions where problems are pointed out. A positive approach offers better vibe and encourages more cooperative thinking than being against something and using negative rhetoric to ‘beat the opposition’. I believe the Universe will attract more help to our causes when we frame our position in the affirmative.

I’ve joined many online groups in order to get input on subjects close to my heart. I sign petitions for the ACLU, PAN, and local political issues, because local action can become precedence for larger movements.¬†I ReTweet posts to bring attention to worthy causes. I send links by email to my friends and family, but I know there is more I can do! When we add our voices together we can become more than the sum of our parts. This synchronicity is necessary if we want to accomplish bigger things.

So do your daily best. Send prayers and affirmations into the ether. Light an Earth friendly candle, sing and dance for the greater good. Do what you can to right wrongs in your local communities.
Then go seek out groups to join to add your voice to the wonderful cacophony that is raised each Spring for the wellness of the Earth. Blend your individual gifts with those of others to make our light radiate around the world…
And continue to do the great work all year ’round.
May our numbers increase and our work be bountiful. Blessed Be!

originally published April 20, 2010

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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You & Your Universe

~the MUSE tells me “It’s about the relationship between you and your universe.” Where do you fit in? Should you fit in??! ūüėČ

I admit, I have authority issues. I fear authority and I resent it. I am a conscious objector, as are my sons. I just don’t want anyone telling me what is best for me and definitely NOT telling me what I have to do with my life. I’ve chosen a comfortable, bohemian lifestyle, filled with music and art, philosophy and creativity. Weird thing is, I’m not of the leisure class! I just live that way. You can too.
~Go to your public library, check out a book and read it~ Join groups to discuss ideas… There are tons of interest groups via MeetUp~ Visit art galleries~ Sing~ Dream~ Dance~ Draw~… You can draw with a stick in the dirt, but e’spress yo’self! Do it to it!

When we started to run into snags with the public school system, I took it upon myself to investigate options. What I discovered is that it is legal in all 50 states to homeschool your kids. I read up on it. I decided to write MY OWN curriculum, based on what I value in education; a solid foundation that fast tracks to the university level with a bunch of practical skills thrown it. I made it individualized to suit both kids’ learning styles.
This is not to say that I don’t support free public education. I think it’s imperative that everyone have access to knowledge and learn how to reason well. I still pay taxes for my local school district and always vote ‘for’ school levies. I want everyone, especially those who can’t afford private school, to get a sound education. It behooves us all to pull up those we can, as we reach out to a hand above ours!

I LOVE sharing the things I’ve learned in life with others and was one of the reasons I chose to have kids in the first place. I wanted to be able to give them the benefit of my experience as well as allow them to flourish in their native ways. I also love teaching metaphysical subjects to others. When one venue was no longer available, I decided to make lemonade = I went online. HA! Maybe I can reach more people and make contacts THIS way?! One can hope.

Even tho I resist authority having too great a sway over my life, I am grateful that I live in a democratic society where one’s opinion can be heard by a representative. It’s not perfect, but at least we can create a stir when enough of us decide to cooperate in changing for the benefit of all involved. I think that in this way civilization advances. Rules should be flexible enough to change when the majority believes that change is needed.

My one caveat is “Question Authority”! Don’t be a sheep. Don’t sign on the dotted line without having read the small print. Try to remember to set clear boundaries and speak up if they have been crossed. Have the courage to truly look at your conscious and sub-conscious beliefs. TEST the rules you impose on yourself and decide if those rules still serve your best interest. If not, adopt new ones.
Act, don’t ReAct. Be flexible in your perception of reality! Intelligence is the ability to adapt to one’s environment. Your survival is dependent upon it. March to the beat of your own drum, as long as you keep your windows rolled up. Set your sites on the high way and ‘Keep on truckin’~
originally published April 1, 2010

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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Daily Prayer

I sort of cringe at the word ‘prayer’ but it is something I try to do as continually as remembering to breathe. I find, “Pray without Ceasing”, a high but worthy goal to aspire toward.
Since there isn’t another word that is as highly understood by people as that word, I use it here to
demonstrate my interpretation of the old standard, The Lord’s Prayer.¬†
This is set in the context of my Unitarian Universalist belief. 
I hope you will find it inspirational…
My interpretation of the ‘Our Father’ prayer is as follows~
Mother-Father God, Creative Spirit,
Organizing Principle of Transcendent Energy
that exists within and without all things~

Aid my desire to grow into the Ultimate Perfection of my soul,
I vow to follow the guidance of my awakened consciousness
as Higher Spirit leads me and to help others toward the growth,
understanding and perfection of themselves~

Provide us all our needs
and be as merciful to us as we are merciful to others
May our karma be improved upon by our enlightened choices,
As the Spirit descends unto Earth, so does my petition ascend unto Heaven,
as in the holy energetic ladder of Kabbalah.

This is my Will, so Mote it Be!  For the Greater Good of All

originally published March 25, 2010

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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Posted August 14th, 2012.

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