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Determined Optimism – can it be learned?

“Smash my optimism into a thousand pieces! I will get up tomorrow and put on the face of a warrior. Because I am determined that the Universe wants us to be happy. Yes. She really does!”

The happiness I’m talking about is not the roses and bubbles and pink sunsets kind of happy. In fact, ‘Happiness is Bullshit’ was my argument just the other day; seeking it out is a waste of time and effort! Even if you reach your goals you will still feel empty at the end of the day and have to find new goals to strive toward. Happiness must be recognized in the moment; Now, I chose to be Happy. And Now. And Now…and then be reflected upon at the end of the day. With repetition, it can build new neural networks in the brain and affect changes within the Spirit.

Happiness is a byproduct of doing what you love, being true to your path and giving of yourself. But I believe “To Be Happy” is the essence that we are All seeking in life: and our desire, to be able to sigh at its end and think, “YES!”

Happiness entails being seen, heard, understood, loved, validated and belonging. Knowing our place in the tribe and contributing to the success of society validates one’s ego~ but we can’t depend on others to provide the basis for our internal contentment, because even with another, we are essentially alone in our Self.

Happiness that comes from within is even stronger than that. The Happiness of the Spirit appreciates beauty, truth and nobility, even in the midst of chaos and destruction~ recognizes and honors courage, even in the face of pain and death ~believes kind actions will one day create lasting change for the betterment of mankind~ and allows grace to flow to and through its Self. That is the kind of joy that has no end. It is the lasting joy that serves the Spirit and brings Peace.

Some gather things to surround themselves with; to protect themselves, their loved-ones, their accumulation of other stuff. But in the end, having stuff proves empty. The less stuff you have, the easier it is to focus on what’s real.
Some seek their obsessions; take thrill rides of extreme sports, sex, parties, drugs and alcohol, looking for a relief from their reality. But that’s a short-lived, dangerous path that leads to self-destruction.
Some go after it by seeking within proscribed ‘holy books’ or dedication to charitable causes because it is righteous. Those actions get closer to the essence of the thing, but without selfless intent~ we miss the mark and fall short.

The happiness that the Universe wants us to find is within our Selves. It is the eternal flame that survives death, that loves truly and deeply, without boundaries or conditions. It is more a Contentment. A way of feeling fulfilled. An inner-knowing that you are doing good work that serves the world. Teaching from a base of what you have learned through your own experience, so you know it is true for you and could apply to others. It is recognizing and remembering our True Essence.

Uplifting our fellows and showing them that life is a miracle that must not be squandered is a clarion call to all Spiritual Warriors. Our time here is limited. We’ve come here to learn lessons, to explore and experience, and to become spiritually perfected, so that we can take what we can only learn here and now, in the body, into higher realms of existence when we leave.

We must take off our masks of Personality or Personae to put on a Spiritual Warriors face, our authentic face, so that we can see the world as it is – and allow the world to truly see us. We must listen to our higher mind, and trust intuition to direct our feet in the right direction. We must act from the clarity of a heart that knows it is god-essence.

Sometimes the hardest lessons in life can become our greatest power. When we suffer we learn compassion and empathy. We can take this wound and turn it around in order to HEAL the world! Consider living this way, from your wounds; HEALING others with similar wounds. How uplifting would that be?

If we stay awake and alert, reminding ourselves moment by moment WHO WE ARE we will discover WHAT we’ve come here to do! There will be nothing that we will be able to find, but the joy and contentment of a well-lived and fulfilling life.

We can learn to be happy. By staying present to the eternal NOW. “I AM. Here and NOW. I choose to be my Highest Self. I choose to be HAPPY.” By practicing it like a martial art, staying determined in our center and not yielding to forces which tempt us to forget who we are…the essence of God herself.
Namaste’ seekers ~ Thou Art Gods

Posted February 16th, 2013.

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Happy Dance

I attended a Womens Spirituality conference yesterday that really recharged my batteries!
The highlight dance portion was led by a fantastic presentor, a friend of mine named Valerie, who tells it like it is in a way like no other. Shes the shortest yet most vibrant person I know, and Im always supercharged to be around her! She can fill a large room with her effervescent presence and certainly did so yesterday~ Her craft is combining the love of dance with spirit. She is truly the embodiment of Heart and Soul and I know she would be happy to be compared to a sprite. Thanks Val!~She started the exercise by quoting Nietzsche:
“And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.”
She told us to feel the music move through our bodies, either with closed eyes or at least looking at the ceiling and dancing like no one was watching. We were on our honor not to peek at the other people in the room, just have our own physical experience- and shake it out! Shout it out! and express ourselves through movement. ~Wow! It’s so great to be allowed the freedom to play~We first danced out our emotions to the worst scenerio we’d had~ bad interpersonal dynamics, gone physical. There were lots of angry sounds heard over the music, grunts, heavy sighs, groans, and forceful exhalations. As for myself, there was lots of punching and clawing going on. Eventually, after lots of stomping and stabbing motions I started to shrivel and cry. Wow~ it was more powerful than I expected it to be!
The point of the exercise was to become aware of where in our bodies we hold negative energy. I could definitely feel mine- and did lots of deep breathing to release it…visualizing the pain as a sensation/color leaving my body. We grounded ourselves by feeling rooted like a tree, branches to the sky and did a chant together.The next dance was our ‘happy dance’, where we danced to experience JOY! This was powerful too, but a lot more fun, of course. There was spinning, twisting, arms reaching gracefully to the sky, happy stepping and turning….and then a pause to feel the happiness located IN our bodies. I could feel this really well too. Then as we slowed our movements down, we continued to dialogue with the feeling in our bodies and each found personal ways to hold that energy, by using a small ‘trigger‘ movement which represented to us, that feeling of joy. Mine is a simple grasping hand motion- its small enough to not be noticed by other people. I can do this anytime I’m stressed to remember that happy feeling, bring my consciousness back to it, and return the positive emotion back into my body, by using this ‘trigger‘. Ive tried it and it really helps bring me back to center. It reminds me that I am bigger than any emotion, and have the power to watch them as they ‘roll on by’… as Cat Stevens would say, “Love is better than a song. And love is where we all belong.” Centered in Love.

Our experiences in life are always affected by our perception. If we are aware that our spirit, our inner core, our soul, is eternal and our emotions and experiences are fleeting, then we can retain the power to chose our perception of every experience- and never fall victim to them! It doesn’t mean that we deny pain, frustration or fear…we just decide to view them from a detached vantage point- as a non-judgmental observer, to try to discover the lessons they hold. Intellectualizing strong emotion is a skill anyone can develop. It is very empowering.

Triggers can help make the transition from the mind to the body! Then we can return to the status-quo of a calm and settled vibration. A safe place from which to make wiser decisions and a healthier place to live: Sit in experience. Acknowledge it with your mind, but let it leave your cells. Negativity causes physical harm to our bodies as well as spirits.

~I highly recommend doing this dance exercise. Forget that you ‘don’t know how to dance’ or feel foolish. Find a time and place you can be alone. Put on your favorite music, the kind that lifts your spirit and start moving however you want. Discover where your joy resides in your body. Hold it. Appreciate it. See if you can build it up using your attention and intention. Then make it smaller and create a tiny movement that can become your ‘happy trigger’. It will be your secret tool to use as you see fit to keep your feet on a path of joy.

May you each be Spirit Scouts toward happiness everyday,
and may you find your happy Triggers and happy trails!
Namaste’ pardners 😉

originally published March 11, 2012

Posted August 20th, 2012.

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on Love

Love. It’s a powerful word, and is interpreted in so many ways.
Today is Valentines Day~
If you’re aware of it, Love is affecting you, in one way or another….
You can express it and share it, or you can scoff at it and deny it. It’s your choice.
Many people are afraid to love. I find this sad.
They’ve been hurt in the past by not receiving the love they wanted or needed in the past. Sometimes they actually HAVE been loved, but have not perceived it as being enough.
So they have set up walls around their vulnerabilities in order to survive and feel safe.
This is sad, but not hopeless.
They think that by being callous or sarcastic they can protect themselves and survive without being hurt again. I’m sorry, folks, but life is change and full of unavoidable hurt.
Putting on emotional armor closes down the natural energy that flows through everyone’s body at birth. This is literally Unhealthy. The mind/body cannot thrive without the flow of Love coursing through ones Soul. The energy stays stuck at the root chakra and keeps people from opening up to the amazing experiences of living fully. To really live fully, you have to take risks! Especially with your heart.
You have to be a Warrior for Love in order to Live well.
Just think, if Everyone’s goal were be to live life to the fullest, and to come to the end, full of bumps, bruises, scratches and scars….without regret for any of the experience,
how much Humanity at large would progress!
Our souls are eternal, and will come back for another body, another chance to experience everything – in order to become filled with the blissful essence of wisdom. Every experience, even the hurtful ones, are for the growth and development of our Character, and our Soul!
So come on-  Give It Up- Take a chance on Love today!
Look at infants. They wail and scream because they are disoriented and uncomfortable.
But given loving attention, the cries stop, the coos begin, and smiles appear. It’s that easy! Well, it make take awhile…because some natural temperaments are ‘easier’ to soothe than others, but eventually, babies get the message that they are safe, and it is okay to feel comfortable in their new bodies.
A child that is loved has tremendous energy that flows naturally through the lower chakras of security, relation, and self-esteem. Look at how they play so happily & easily.
As that child grows, if they are encouraged to become themselves, they grow into their heart chakra and are able to freely express their love. As we mature, we learn to give our creativity space to move through our throat chakra.
This is the Sacred Work of Parenting.
Once we are on our own, we typically come to a place of knowing that there’s something MORE to life; whether during that disgruntled teenage period, young adult or midlife point, we start to sense that there is MORE than the mundane, physical life.
We must Seek it out! We can learn to connect with our Spirit and the Godhead within each of us!
We Can Become BORN AGAIN! ~by discovering our Spiritual Self and learning to Love the World and Everything in it! When this happens, Everything changes for the Better: we can live in Love’s flow!
When we feel safe, that we belong, that we are a valuable asset to our family and community, when we are allowed, by our Self and society, to express our uniqueness we CAN find Heaven on Earth, by connecting with our loving Spiritual Selves.
This is the motivation of LOVE that exists in each one of us!
Believe me. It’s in there. All we have to do is look with open eyes and awareness!
We need to come to an understanding that we ARE Love at our soul essence.
Each soul is a part of Universal energy and we are all connected
beyond the boundaries of our bodies, by love! <3
We are drops in the ocean of all-that-is…so when one is hurt, we all hurt, though we may not be consciously aware of it. When one of us grows, we all grow.
When we suppress Love, we cause harm, to ourselves, and others.
When allowed to flow, Love creates beauty and hope in the world~
We need to come to the realization that The Greatest Love of All is within ourselves.
This is one of the most important reasons we exist in this schoolhouse called Life.
To Learn this Lesson: Love is all around us– it IS us. It is the driving force of the Universe. It is the energy that makes us come alive, be creative, feel deeply.
Many people are living without this understanding. It can be helped. Whatever amount of Love you have in your heart – share it with others.
Give it to your Self in ways that pamper you and make you feel happy.
Give it to those you know and see everyday. Then start sharing it with strangers,
by doing small acts of kindness whenever you get a chance.
The WORLD needs our love. What you want, you must share. This is a Universal law:
Share a little, receive a little. Share a lot, receive even more than you put out!
~!Even a tiny spark of love can set off a wildfire of positivity all around you!~
Be brave.    Love.    ~and open your Self up to receive the love you are given!
You will Be Amazed!!
Namaste’
“The Love you take is equal to the Love you make” – John Lennon
originally posted February 14, 2012

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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Partnerships & Friendships

So the Universe is giving me a message loud and clear this morning.
You are on your own, girl. Show me whatcha got!”

Lesson: There is nobody else that is on the path I walk. People who I thought were my partners, spouse and friends all have their own agendas. The things I feel are most important pale in comparison to their own goals- even when I believed we were working toward the same things.
Universe says, “If there’s something you know you must do; get started. Do it. Pursue it. Follow your heart and keep listening to your Spirit to guide you.”

I am a person who wants to blend and merge with others…Enneagram subtype is called 1:1, aka the Lover. I am a lover of people. I want to become partners with others in order to support each other and get more accomplished than one can do alone. Ive experienced the joy of synchronicity and friendship in the past. It blisses me out more than words can express. And yet,
I know I can’t depend on other people to make me happy….even when helping other people is what I am here on Earth to do. It’s quite a conundrum. :/ *sigh*

This loving kindness that spills from my soul, Ive found lately, drives some people away.
A friend said to me, ” You Love too much. You need to be less enthusiastic in your loving.”
I shake my head – feeling a bit discouraged.
Im only following what a great teacher is said to have told his followers, “Love one another”-
Kahlil Gibhran says, “Love one another, but make not a bond of love- the cypress and the oak grow not in each other’s shadow”
I get this.
What I dont understand is why people, who say they are committed to me via marriage or friendship, stand on the sidelines cheering for me – but wont ‘go long’ to catch the football I pass them.

Reciprocation. Is it too much to ask?
When Ive asked for help, no one shows up.
So Ive taken this mantra,~
It looks like nobody loves me, it’s okay, I love myself. I think Im pretty damned great!
Actually, I KNOW Im pretty damned great…and wonder why others dont want a piece of that.
I would gladly share anything I am, have or know.

My goals are pretty clear to me. So today I take my first steps solo.
My dream is that others will notice Ive begun, and possibly, follow-
come up behind me, and ask to join me. The answer, of course,would be YES.
It’s not that I NEED them to succeed in fulfilling my goals…its just that the journey would be made that much sweeter if they were along for the ride. <3
It’s a long, winding road ahead of those of us who walk our paths alone.
I wish us all Courage and the Best of Luck!
Namaste’

“Everyone walks alone – but along the way, we secretly hope to find the oasis of friendship, to feed us and quench our thirst.” – GenieDjinn

February 6, 2012 original post

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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Your Daily Best

I may have blogged about this before, but it is worth repeating.

“Each day I will do my Daily Best“.
Daily Best means that whatever challenges we face, we give them a good effort,
doing what we perceive that to be…but it doesn’t mean giving everything a superhuman effort!
It’s especially important to give yourself a break from expectations of perfection while
you are under the weather or under pressure from looming deadlines.

To know you’ve done what needs to be done, in good conscience,
even if it is just a small effort- is the highest of daily aspirations
and all anyone expects of us.

To be able to close your eyes at night and release all tension from your mind~
to be confident in your actions, knowing you didn’t intentionally harm anyone,
and to know that the world was made better by your efforts,
brings a calm and deep relaxation to the mind.

Which is the best gift we can give ourselves.
Peace.
Namaste’

originally posted January 23, 2012

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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Full Moon in Cancer

Tonight the moon becomes full in the constellation of Cancer.
The moon is *exalted* or most comfortable in the watery abode of Cancer, the Crab…where its emotionality and fluidity are most easily expressed; so don’t be surprised if you have felt overly sensitive in the days prior and after a Cancer moon, which happens 9 to 10 times a year-
and especially the Cancer Full Moon!

The Cancer Full Moon contains the frequencies of the Great Mother; nurturance, sustanance, protection, caring and love. Tonight is a good time to meditate on the fullness and abundance of the Mother aspect of G*d. How does the Universe provide for you? How do you nurture yourself?
Can you do your domestic chores with love in your heart for yourself and the way you take care of your own needs? Do you allow yourself to indulge in self pampering and rewards for work well done, or do you shun all forms of hedonism? Or, on the other hand do you go overboard on the hedonism aspect of self-indulgence or self-serving behavior? It’s important to reach a balance.

Did you know that the Sun is always in opposition to the Full moon? It makes sense, if you think about it, astronomically. The Sun is in the sign of Capricorn tonight. Capricorn energies include the Great Father, the provider, protector and defender. Capricorn, the sea-goat, is an archetype of the Great Search, as the sea-goat plumbs the depths as well as scales the heights, of our subconscious terrain. Capricorn has to do with traditional ways of doing things, institutions and paternity. The song, “That’s Just the Way it Is” comes to mind. It’s time to tear down the walls of traditions that no longer serve the interests of the people they were designed to serve! Can we open our hearts and minds to creating new ways of thinking about education, banking, insurance, health care and marriage? Creating a new paradigm that serves all of mankind is the Great work of our time!

Capricorn begs us to ask ourselves, How do we face our deepest fears? Do we contain the Courage to Continue when all looks dark? Do we feel the Loving presence of the Divine behind us in all our endeavors? What does our inner Self feel protected by? Do we wear masks or does our light shine forth from within?

The combination of the energies of the Great Mother meeting the Great Father reminds me of a powerful work I did in 1989.  I found a book called, “Reparenting Yourself“. I think very few of us believe that we had/have ideal parents. I always felt like I had another ‘real’ parent who dropped me off on the doorstep of a pair of very young, inexperienced people, neither of which were ready to become my parents. My mother didnt need to tell me, but she did, that I was more mature than she was, [when I was in grade school] and that she would never grow up! A tinkerbell, if there ever was one!

The basics of Reparenting is to use your imagination to develop a character, in all her fullness, of the mother you wish you would have had. You can use magazine images, feelings, sensations, and all of your senses, to create this ideal parent.
Then you are to dialogue with her. Tell her all of your worries, cares, concerns, wishes and regrets. Tell her what you really NEEDED as a child and young adult. Feel her embrace you with everything you have ever wanted from a mother, a mentor and a Goddess.
Imagine the life you would be leading today if she were there for you now ~ then go LIVE IT that way!   <3

Do the same thing for your ideal Father. What would he have looked like? Sounded like? What advice would he have given you? What financial, emotional and physical support would he have lent you?
Dialogue with the ideal Father, the holy Father, the God. Tell him what you expected of him as a child, what you wish for today and what archetypal energies of his, you want to live on, in you, as his legacy……and then~
go LIVE that way! <3

Tonight, stand under the light of the Full Moon.
Fill yourself with the balanced energies of the Great Mother and Father.
Feel their embrace around you. Feel them living within you!
And become the ideal you wish to be!
Walk in beauty. Walk in truth. Walk in Love!
~Namaste’

January 8, 2011

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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Fall in Love with Yor Self

“Another person will never be enough to make you feel truly satisfied.
That kind of completion can only be found through love of Self.
Of course, the union between two people who love unconditionally
is the highest form of (Love) sexual expression.”  Wendy Strgar – GoodCleanLove

My To-Do List:
1. Know Thyself
2. Courageously face your Demons
3. Come out Empowered
4. Fall in Love with Yourself
5. Fall in Love with Life
6. Fall in Love with Others
7. Create Great Changes in the World that Benefit Everyone

yeah, its not much~
I’d like to say I’m spending most of my time on #7,
but this is a cyclical list that keeps revolving.
Namaste’

original post September 5, 2011

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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