Kalin Art & Spirit

Lucid Dreaming

Repetitive Dreams- have you ever been dreaming and then realized that everything seems familiar? Then have you realized that you are currently having a repetitive dream? Great! That’s the time to take the bull by the horns and steer it toward the outcome you wish to occur! I’ve done this many times.

I’ve had a repetitive dream of being on the West Coast in a tsunami zone and a very high wave hits against the glass of a hotel restaurant. I realize that is dangerous and alert others. Sometimes we’ve escaped to higher ground other times I’ve drowned.
Now… when I see the waves, or it’s variation, deep swirling water, I have the choice to be the ‘director’ of my dream and move it as I want it to go, then take an action that will change the outcome in a more positive fashion. Taking a proactive stance while being aware of the fact that you’re dreaming is called a Lucid Dream state. I’ve gotten to the point where now, I see the waves and say “not tonight” and stop the dream right there and wake up.

As I wake up, I analyze what is happening in my waking life that would trigger my subconscious to send me that message. For me, deep waters symbolize deep emotions that are overwhelming me in my waking life. So I sit up, turn on my flashlight and write in my dream journal as much detail as I can remember. It’s surprising how many details I can recall at that moment that would be forgotten if I tried to recall it in the morning.
After I’ve taken notes, I tell myself that I’ll do more inner work on it in the morning.
It helps me relax enough to go back to sleep and rest well.
I’ve worked through it so often that I haven’t had that dream for quite a while now~ but if it comes again, I won’t be afraid of it – I’ll deal with it and know I can handle it effectively either right then, in a lucid state and/or do more conscious work on those issues in the daylight – after breakfast, when the rational side of my brain is ‘on duty’.

When you become aware of your Lucid Dreaming state it is really empowering. You can do anything you want to do to manipulate the outcome – however impossible.
Try it tonight! Plant a seed thought as to what you will do WHEN you become conscious that you are dreaming. That’s the first step. When you realize you’re dreaming, ie you’re flying or doing something impossible in waking life, it may prompt you to take action to move the outcome in a direction you wish. Stop and look at your hands or feet. Make mental notes of where you are and what you’re doing. Look at things until they come into sharp focus via concentration.
Try to read what’s written, say it aloud and make a point to wake yourself up to write it down!
(Ive been dreaming of tweets lately!)
Be AWARE and take an action that empowers you and harms no one else!
It’s great fun – and can be done with practice. It will confirm to you that YOU are the master of your destiny, in the dream world AND the waking world!
Sleep well,

originally posted September 17, 2011


Posted August 19th, 2012.

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Making Progress

You know you are making Spiritual progress when things fall apart and you stay centered and calm in your Inner Self. Knowing what makes you feel calm and safe is the first, and one of the most important things to learn about yourself. Go there. Seek it out. Then practice being centered, calm and safe. Everyday. This is first chakra work.

When people push your buttons and you become aware that it is happening ~and choose to react in a more thoughtful and intentional way~ you gain personal power and control over your life!
You do not have to be pulled into the drama! Step back, regroup, breathe. When you understand that you have choices, you can choose to ignore it, or respond with thoughtful words in a measured, and lowered, tone of voice. This work corresponds to the second, interpersonal chakra, the third, personal power and fourth, heart energy chakras.

Deepak Chopra says, “When someone else makes a mistake, it is their responsibility to correct it. It is your responsibility to handle how you feel about it,” which is absolutely true. When we try to not take things personally, which is advocated in Don Miguel Riuz’ book, “The 4 Agreements,” it becomes easier to allow slights to be overlooked. Letting things just “Go” makes for an overall happier life.
And isn’t that what we all want?
Be Well. Be Happy!
: )
Cultivating a rich inner garden will help you to stay centered and harmonious in the midst of change -Deborah Ingerman : )

originally posted August 15, 2011

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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Saloon Salons; or The Art of Conversation is Not Dead

This fall, my husband and I are going to start facilitating ‘Salons’ in our home, where we facilitate dialogue on lots of metaphysical topics. We’re inviting a few couples now to come and spend two evenings a month socializing in a new way~

Instead of talking about sports, or [God-forbid] work! we’re going to offer up topics to consider ahead of time by email, so that our friends can have some time to ponder the subject and have formulate some thoughts before coming over. Of course, these will be opening questions and convos will go off topic and allow for a wide-ranging, involved discussions that may lead to who-knows-what? Flash mobs and social activism, creation of music and art, and probably a more dynamic community. Watch out world!

Topics we’re considering combine the latest Scientific findings and esoteric Spirituality; ‘the nature of the universe, unified field theory, string theory’, practical applied Kabbalah principals, personality types of the Enneagram, and more general topics such as ‘what is the definition of the Authentic self?
These kinds of ‘adult education classes’ are the kind I teach/participate in at our Unitarian Universalist church, but we hope to start more meaningful dialogue and a comfortable, close-knit group of friends by opening up our home. Of course, alcoholic beverages will be served up to loosen the otherwise tight lipped. We’ll call them “Saloon Salons” 😀

I hope to get permission from the participants to post general comments here about our findings.
I encourage you to try this in your homes as well! Why settle for small talk when there’s so much depth to life?  ~ooohhH! this will be exciting! Stay tuned.

Comment: our first ‘official’ Saloon Salon was held September 10, 2011  on the topic of “The Nature of Reality; parallel universes and cosmic consciousness. A good time was had by all.
Upcoming Salon to be held October 22, 2011 on the topic “How does the Mind affect Reality” using the book, “Biology of Belief” and the latest findings on Matter and Mass. Stay tuned…

originally published August 2, 2011

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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ReProgramming your Life

“Out beyond the world of ideas of wrong doing and right doing, there is a field. I will meet you there.”
Jalal ad-Din …..aka Rumi
ReProgramming sounds ominous, doesn’t it? But the thing is, you have already been programmed subconsciously! Society, your family, your peers have all influenced what you believe to be ‘right’ and ‘wrong’. People are adaptive to their cultural systems in the same way that a baby can learn any language~ because it is our human nature to adapt to our communities, in order to fulfill one of our basic needs; BELONGING.

In Maslow’s heirarchy of Survival, Safety, Belonging, Self Expression, and Self-Actualization,
Belonging is one of the primal needs of mankind. It exists on the instinctual level. Even herd animals need to belong in order to survive.

In order to create the reality you want to live, and find true happiness and fulfillment, you must become AWARE of your initial programming. This is a life-changing and world-paradigm shifting exercise, but one that ultimately allows you to look honestly at your beliefs, your values, your behavior and your ethical standards and MODIFY them to your OWN specifications!!

To begin to live your ideals is liberating, empowering and deeply fulfilling! Your life will become a game which you can Win. You will easily give up the struggle, the drama, the pain, and suffering and the psychic heaviness that accompany this negativity. You will begin to live in a more healthy lifestyle, have more energy and discover a brighter outlook on life.

The only thing you have to lose is your ‘comfort zone’ of unconscious behavior.
Some people can’t face leaving the faith of their childhood, moving out of their parents home or to another city. Isn’t that sad? The same kind of testing of one’s wings is what happens when you step out of your unconscious behaviors and liberate yourself from the shackles of the pre-existing beliefs that no longer serve you.

Most people don’t do this; they live in ignorance of their situation and feel powerless to do anything about the ‘hand that they are dealt’. This fatalist mentality will get them nowhere. They will be easy targets to external forces like the fear-mongering media, political systems and even well-intentioned friends and spouses. To break away from the crowd and discover your own TRUTH is the task at hand.

I urge you to be brave enough to look at your initial ‘programming’ and decide if it still fits the deep, inner needs of your soul today. Do you have any hidden bias’, judgements, or prejudices? List them. Try to discover where they came from; did your parents implant them into your psyche?
Most of our initial programming is done before the age of 3, while our minds are still functioning on the UNCONSCIOUS level. We accept whatever we get as the ‘Truth’.
This is why HYPNOSIS works; the facilitator takes you back to that pre-three year old phase of your life and allows you to discover your reality and ReProgram it in order to serve your HIGHER SELF.  You can also do this your own!!

The Subconscious is very literal. In reprogramming it you must speak in positive terms, in the present tense in colorful language that thrills your inner three year old. Plant pictures in your minds’ eye and animate them! Talk to your inner child with love, affection and adventure!
1. Create Affirmations based on the opposite of your limiting beliefs.
2. Attach them to your body/mind with a physical anchor – such as tapping parts of your body, while repeating your affirmation.
3. Know that what you’re doing works! and
4. be Grateful that you have discovered a way to physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually Empower Yourself!
Repeat these steps until you feel an Inner Shift. You will feel it as a subtle degree of happiness, lightness and uplifit within your heart and soul.

ReProgramming is safe, effective and necessary if we are to live self-actualized lives. This is the ‘great Spiritual work’ we can each achieve, and when we do, the outcome will be a ripple effect which influences all those we come into contact with.
I wish you Peace, Love and Bright Blessings on your journey~

originally published July 29, 2011

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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Building Trust

Trust is important in any relationship. Especially those we want to maintain.
We may say “I trust you…” but what does it mean and how can we become people worthy of others’ trust?

Here are a few points I discovered along my long and winding road;
1. Familiarity and contact is first and foremost. We trust people who show up. Who are dependable and do what they say they will do. Out of sight, out of mind…Creating quality ‘FaceTime’ is paramount to developing trust between people. Knowing we will see someone at a regular time and place creates an aura of comfort in which we can attempt to invest our valuable time with others.
2. Resemblance– we tend to trust people who hold similar world views as ourselves, although having an ‘agreement to disagree’ also holds. The point being that honesty abides and ground rules have been established.
Allowing others to reveal their true selves is important to developing trust. On the other hand,  
3. Flexibility and Tolerance are key to Spiritual growth, as well as reaching outside ones typical circles of engagement. Making new friends in order to grow your circle of relationships takes courage and keeping the old takes commitment. Seeing with the heart and allowing for personal differences will allow others to trust you.
3. Consistency– especially in new relationships, and those with children, consistency is paramount to developing a trusting relationship. Actions speak louder than words, or apologies. Don’t promise what you cannot fulfill but try to give of yourself and your time to invest in the relationship. Don’t expect relationships to continue, grow or flourish without regular watering and feeding.
4. Dedication– knowing that another person will conscientiously stick to the details of their promises helps us learn that they are reliable and will be able to be counted on in the future. Punctuality counts for a lot while interacting with others and shows our respect. A timely response prior to a cancellation is always better than becoming a ‘no-show’. Learning that another has a sense of personal responsibility and integrity are important aspects to knowing that someone can be trusted.
5. Transparency– knowing that both parties are honorable and above board with their actions toward one another creates a safe atmosphere in which trust can develop.
6. Self-disclosure– sharing personal details may be more difficult for some of us than others. This sets up the possibility of feeling vulnerable, but that openness also creates a feeling of growing potential trust. Giving ‘tit’ for ‘tat’ creates a feeling of balance, where we know our input has been well met and reciprocated. (one of my friends calls this ‘social debt’)
7. Engagementreciprocity of conversation on many subjects creates a feeling of balance and equity between people. The more time spent in interpersonal interaction the greater the amount of trust is freely shared.

#Trust the Universe to provide your needs and the energies sent out will return to you!!
#Trust people first, let them prove you wrong.
#Be slow to judge and slower yet to condemn.

Learning to walk a mile in another’s shoes will provide you with a new perspective in which to develop trust and understanding on an individual basis.
~and by posting this I am trusting my authentic self who wants to express itself, heedless of the timing or in the way it may be interpreted.

originally published July 25, 2011

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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Life’s Transitions

10 Questions for Life’s Transitions~
We all go through transitional phases in life; at graduation, at a job loss, a divorce, a move, in mid-life or retirement. When things seem to a all change at once NOBODY expects us to carry on as usual! Take some personal time off and explore your options. These are 10 steps I found (probably from Deepak Chopra) that I’ve added my own explanations to.

1. What are my unique gifts? Only you can answer this. You have to be honest with yourself and know how to look within, with a measure of compassion and self love. What talents come easily to you? Build on them.

2. How do I feel called to serve? Is there a small, still voice in you that you’ve been ignoring because it was dissonant with what your ‘head’ (society/parents/peers/superiors) told you was your mission? Investigate it. Give it time to grow louder by dialoguing with it. Then follow your heart’s desire!

3. What activities deeply nourish me? Try to get behind the external activities and into the core of what lies beneath them. Is it the act of sharing knowledge that fulfills a need in you to be heard? Is it the quality of feeling at ‘one’ with others that lies behind your charitable activities? Take these root motivations and apply them to other venues. Think outside the box.

4. What brings me pleasure and joy? Maybe you don’t feel passionate, just drained. Do things that are uncharacteristic for you. Try a new sport, read a new genre of book, hang around busy place and watch people; listening to conversations you wouldn’t normally hold with people. Consider other perspectives on life. Browse the internet following links that draw you. Indulge yourself in your favorite pampering rituals. Go window shopping and buy yourself a small gift that makes you feel special.
When you discover a new passion, write it down and post it where you will be reminded of it. Remember to play every day!

5. What are my passions?  Do you feel strongly about a cause? Do you have a favorite pastime? Are there activities that make you feel empowered and fulfilled? Get more involved in them and your energy levels will spike, helping you move through the transitional phase more easily.
If you feel disconnected from your passions, don’t worry. One day something will come along and be worthy of your time and attention~ and you’ll have the time and space to dedicate to it! Until then, wait until you are called.

6. What is my life’s work or purpose? This is a biggie- so if it overwhelms you, skip it and come back to it later. A secret is that you can always change the answer to this one…at any time!
Like #3, try to see if there is a pattern behind the things you have been doing, the way you’ve been interacting, the jobs you’ve held (and liked)~ the cares and concerns that have always been a part of you, and build on them- if they are positive. Consider changing them if they no longer serve your higher good. Include your motivations behind the patterns you find to lead you into your higher purpose for your life’s work. Don’t feel you have to rush this one or find the answer right away…it will probably grow on you slowly until one day you have a “Eureka” moment that will push you forward.

7. What are the issues I must face? Here’s another one that might be difficult for some people to look at honestly and with compassion for themselves. I suggest listing only a few of them, prioritizing them an selecting only one to deal with at a time.
Give yourself plenty of time to resolve it while you take small steps to get through daily life. You’ll know when you have enough emotional reserves to begin this work. If they appear daunting, seek out help. Maybe all you’ll need is to find is a good listener or a shoulder to cry on. Maybe you’ll find a counselor with some wise suggestions to consider to get you started.
Try to remember, though, that the issues are yours, and you are the one who knows yourself best. Don’t become overly reliant on any one person besides yourself… unless you feel drawn to put your therapist’s child through college.
8. What is the next step I must take in order to become more fully myself? You can start this one right away. ‘Check in’ with your Self in order to ‘hear’ your own truth. Decide to step out of your comfort zone and do one thing that is different from your normal routine. Decide to start being more honest with your self and others. Start small, but start.

9. What needs to be healed in me? Like number 7, you may not realize where your woundedness lies, because we’ve been taught to overlook it. Our hurts may be too tender and raw to do much with, except to become aware of them. But if you can identify one area that needs to be healed, work on it, slowly and gently – with others if possible. 
Identify your dragon, befriend it and tame it. see archives *June 2, 2011

10. What is the task ahead of me now? Like number 8, just begin taking small steps toward acting on your hunches, listen to your intuition and follow your bliss. If you need to feel more ‘organized’ about this, list your goal first and work backward on the steps you want to take to achieve it. Then DO something small and measurable, every day – and reward yourself for your courage!


Posted August 19th, 2012.

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The 4 Agreements; book review

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz ISBN I-878424-31-9
The Four Agreements Companion Book ISBN I-878-424-48-3
This short, easy to read book, and its sequel, both come highly recommended. They are available as 200 page paperbacks and should be accessible at your public library. As easy as they are to read, they may be more difficult, yet are imperative to incorporate into your life!
These four basic rules are purported to have come down through oral tradition of the author as basic tenants of Meso-American civilization. They are each golden as rules.

I recommend you work on them as daily exercises for one month, as it’s been proven that it takes 30 days to establish a new habit upon one’s subconscious.
As an exercise; repeat the words quietly to yourself, as frequently as you can, while establishing an ‘anchor’.
An anchor is a physical reminder that stays with one’s subconscious and reminds it to *pay attention* to what your conscious mind is saying/doing. Ie. by turning a ring around your finger or pressing your fingertips together, you can establish an anchor.
Then, while closing your eyes and breathing slowly imagine what this means to you and how you might apply it to your life. This will incorporate the principles into your subconscious throughout the day. After 30 days of effort these new habits will be established.

1. Be Impeccable with Your Word; speak with integrity, say only what you mean. Avoid using words to speak against yourself or others. Direct your words toward truth and love.
I would add, try using only positive words to describe things, give more compliments and try to keep your thoughts and words focused in the present moment. Learn to stop teasing and gossiping. Have the courage to say what needs to be said, when it needs to be said.

Air = thoughts, inspirations, words and dialogue.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally; nothing others do is because of you! What others do and say is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
This one can be the most difficult because we naturally tend to be egocentric beings. If you can step out of this perspective and try to maintain one that is larger, and all-encompassing, you will be able to side-step many pitfalls.

Fire = passion, intention, and actions.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions; find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can, to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.  With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life!
Connecting daily with your heart center then connecting to others through it, allows only your best, most sincere feelings to come through. Displeasure or correction can come from this place of love, and will be more easily accepted by others.

Water = emotions and feelings, heartfelt communication.

4. Always Do Your Best; your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse and regret.
Holding personal integrity in your place of ‘power with’, rather than ‘power over’, will allow you to be the most effective you can be in your life. Putting your efforts toward your ‘daily best’ frees you from the chains of holding yourself to unrealistically high achievement standards. It allows you to be gentle with your Self. By finding compassion within, you will discover that it will be second nature to relate to others with that same compassion. Love starts within one’s Self.

Earth = our physical reality manifest by our thoughts.

Integrity; sound moral principle, uprightness, honesty and sincerity. IMO one must prove personal integrity by communicating it via thoughts, intent, words and deeds.
It will be noticed!

originally published July 17, 2011

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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Happiness & Contentment

I jokingly tell friends, there are only three rules for happiness;
1. have a short term memory
2. lower your expectations and
3. be easily amused!  ~at this age, I seem to have all three~
I think, but can’t remember for sure!  Have a great day!

Goethe’s nine requisites for contented living: 

Health enough to make work a pleasure. 
Wealth enough to support your needs. 
Strength to battle with difficulties and overcome them. 
Grace enough to confess your sins and forsake them. 
Patience enough to toil until some good is accomplished. 
Charity enough to see some good in your neighbor. 
Love enough to move you to be useful and helpful to others. 
Faith enough to make real the things of God. 
Hope enough to remove all anxious fears concerning the future.”
– Johann von Goethe, was a German writer and, according to George Eliot, “Germany’s greatest man of letters  BTW, Goethe is pronounced Gair-ta…once, a not-too-tactful guy pointed this out to me. I told him I’d only read the man, not met him! 😛
originally published July 12, 2011

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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For the Glory of the Earth

This year’s Earth Day has arrived without much hoopla or hype. I wonder if people are thinking the holiday has become passe? Isn’t there enough profit to be made on the topic of ‘honoring our Mother’ or does ‘Saving the Planet’ throw people off because it is a challenge too large for the individual mind to fathom?

I see the Earth as a shaggy, wet dog…. she is shaking to rid herself of the fleas and debris she has accumulated. Surely she is a living being. How do we react? Do we scold her and fear her trembling or do we send her love and adapt our actions to her movements? I suppose it depends on your world view. Are you arrogant enough to think you are holding her leash?

I propose we each do what we can on a daily basis; recycle, reuse and reduce our carbon footprints. Buy smart by purchasing products without harmful chemicals or wasteful packaging. Decide what we really NEED and stop doing only what we want.
Then gather together wherever we can, online or in our local parks/coffee shops, to discuss solutions where problems are pointed out. A positive approach offers better vibe and encourages more cooperative thinking than being against something and using negative rhetoric to ‘beat the opposition’. I believe the Universe will attract more help to our causes when we frame our position in the affirmative.

I’ve joined many online groups in order to get input on subjects close to my heart. I sign petitions for the ACLU, PAN, and local political issues, because local action can become precedence for larger movements. I ReTweet posts to bring attention to worthy causes. I send links by email to my friends and family, but I know there is more I can do! When we add our voices together we can become more than the sum of our parts. This synchronicity is necessary if we want to accomplish bigger things.

So do your daily best. Send prayers and affirmations into the ether. Light an Earth friendly candle, sing and dance for the greater good. Do what you can to right wrongs in your local communities.
Then go seek out groups to join to add your voice to the wonderful cacophony that is raised each Spring for the wellness of the Earth. Blend your individual gifts with those of others to make our light radiate around the world…
And continue to do the great work all year ’round.
May our numbers increase and our work be bountiful. Blessed Be!

originally published April 20, 2010

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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You & Your Universe

~the MUSE tells me “It’s about the relationship between you and your universe.” Where do you fit in? Should you fit in??! 😉

I admit, I have authority issues. I fear authority and I resent it. I am a conscious objector, as are my sons. I just don’t want anyone telling me what is best for me and definitely NOT telling me what I have to do with my life. I’ve chosen a comfortable, bohemian lifestyle, filled with music and art, philosophy and creativity. Weird thing is, I’m not of the leisure class! I just live that way. You can too.
~Go to your public library, check out a book and read it~ Join groups to discuss ideas… There are tons of interest groups via MeetUp~ Visit art galleries~ Sing~ Dream~ Dance~ Draw~… You can draw with a stick in the dirt, but e’spress yo’self! Do it to it!

When we started to run into snags with the public school system, I took it upon myself to investigate options. What I discovered is that it is legal in all 50 states to homeschool your kids. I read up on it. I decided to write MY OWN curriculum, based on what I value in education; a solid foundation that fast tracks to the university level with a bunch of practical skills thrown it. I made it individualized to suit both kids’ learning styles.
This is not to say that I don’t support free public education. I think it’s imperative that everyone have access to knowledge and learn how to reason well. I still pay taxes for my local school district and always vote ‘for’ school levies. I want everyone, especially those who can’t afford private school, to get a sound education. It behooves us all to pull up those we can, as we reach out to a hand above ours!

I LOVE sharing the things I’ve learned in life with others and was one of the reasons I chose to have kids in the first place. I wanted to be able to give them the benefit of my experience as well as allow them to flourish in their native ways. I also love teaching metaphysical subjects to others. When one venue was no longer available, I decided to make lemonade = I went online. HA! Maybe I can reach more people and make contacts THIS way?! One can hope.

Even tho I resist authority having too great a sway over my life, I am grateful that I live in a democratic society where one’s opinion can be heard by a representative. It’s not perfect, but at least we can create a stir when enough of us decide to cooperate in changing for the benefit of all involved. I think that in this way civilization advances. Rules should be flexible enough to change when the majority believes that change is needed.

My one caveat is “Question Authority”! Don’t be a sheep. Don’t sign on the dotted line without having read the small print. Try to remember to set clear boundaries and speak up if they have been crossed. Have the courage to truly look at your conscious and sub-conscious beliefs. TEST the rules you impose on yourself and decide if those rules still serve your best interest. If not, adopt new ones.
Act, don’t ReAct. Be flexible in your perception of reality! Intelligence is the ability to adapt to one’s environment. Your survival is dependent upon it. March to the beat of your own drum, as long as you keep your windows rolled up. Set your sites on the high way and ‘Keep on truckin’~
originally published April 1, 2010

Posted August 19th, 2012.

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