Kalin Art & Spirit

Parenting as a Sacred Vocation

Love vs Fear
A friend just mentioned how hard it is to try and teach her pre-teen how to get along and treat everyone with respect, echoing in frustration, “Why can’t we all just get along?!” I see her point, especially when there are so few good examples in the adult world to point to as references.

My theory about this is that so many of us, even as adults, stuck in the EGO world. When the EGO is growing, it bumps and scrapes from side to side until it can find a place of stasis. This process of individuation is not pretty or comfortable for anyone but is part of the growth process. A FEARFUL EGO creates the idea of scarcity, in which the goals of survival and self-preservation are magnified.

So many people look at the maya of the world’s condition and see dwindling resources with an ever increasing population. They feel the twinge of FEAR raise its ugly head in their bellies. Rationalizing their bad behavior of jockeying for position, fighting their way to the illusive “top”, buying, consuming or hoarding material possessions, and putting up barriers to deep, heartfelt human interaction are all acts generated by a FEARFUL EGO.

Only after the EGO no longer fears that there won’t be enough for it to survive, can it move from a place of fear, into a place of calm, a place of security, a place of LOVE, and start relating with maturity.

I told my friend to remind herself “This too shall pass” and keep supporting her own child’s little ego by continuing to love him unconditionally. By acknowledging him, seeing the light of spirit within him and giving him a good example to emulate, she will have done her part in making the world a more peaceful place. To be a Parent is to be a Spiritual Warrior! NAMASTE!
originally published March 26, 2010

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Posted in Relationships by kalin on August 19th, 2012 at 7:06 pm.

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