Kalin Art & Spirit

Partnerships & Friendships

So the Universe is giving me a message loud and clear this morning.
You are on your own, girl. Show me whatcha got!”

Lesson: There is nobody else that is on the path I walk. People who I thought were my partners, spouse and friends all have their own agendas. The things I feel are most important pale in comparison to their own goals- even when I believed we were working toward the same things.
Universe says, “If there’s something you know you must do; get started. Do it. Pursue it. Follow your heart and keep listening to your Spirit to guide you.”

I am a person who wants to blend and merge with others…Enneagram subtype is called 1:1, aka the Lover. I am a lover of people. I want to become partners with others in order to support each other and get more accomplished than one can do alone. Ive experienced the joy of synchronicity and friendship in the past. It blisses me out more than words can express. And yet,
I know I can’t depend on other people to make me happy….even when helping other people is what I am here on Earth to do. It’s quite a conundrum. :/ *sigh*

This loving kindness that spills from my soul, Ive found lately, drives some people away.
A friend said to me, ” You Love too much. You need to be less enthusiastic in your loving.”
I shake my head – feeling a bit discouraged.
Im only following what a great teacher is said to have told his followers, “Love one another”-
Kahlil Gibhran says, “Love one another, but make not a bond of love- the cypress and the oak grow not in each other’s shadow”
I get this.
What I dont understand is why people, who say they are committed to me via marriage or friendship, stand on the sidelines cheering for me – but wont ‘go long’ to catch the football I pass them.

Reciprocation. Is it too much to ask?
When Ive asked for help, no one shows up.
So Ive taken this mantra,~
It looks like nobody loves me, it’s okay, I love myself. I think Im pretty damned great!
Actually, I KNOW Im pretty damned great…and wonder why others dont want a piece of that.
I would gladly share anything I am, have or know.

My goals are pretty clear to me. So today I take my first steps solo.
My dream is that others will notice Ive begun, and possibly, follow-
come up behind me, and ask to join me. The answer, of course,would be YES.
It’s not that I NEED them to succeed in fulfilling my goals…its just that the journey would be made that much sweeter if they were along for the ride. <3
It’s a long, winding road ahead of those of us who walk our paths alone.
I wish us all Courage and the Best of Luck!

“Everyone walks alone – but along the way, we secretly hope to find the oasis of friendship, to feed us and quench our thirst.” – GenieDjinn

February 6, 2012 original post

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Parenting as a Sacred Vocation

Love vs Fear
A friend just mentioned how hard it is to try and teach her pre-teen how to get along and treat everyone with respect, echoing in frustration, “Why can’t we all just get along?!” I see her point, especially when there are so few good examples in the adult world to point to as references.

My theory about this is that so many of us, even as adults, stuck in the EGO world. When the EGO is growing, it bumps and scrapes from side to side until it can find a place of stasis. This process of individuation is not pretty or comfortable for anyone but is part of the growth process. A FEARFUL EGO creates the idea of scarcity, in which the goals of survival and self-preservation are magnified.

So many people look at the maya of the world’s condition and see dwindling resources with an ever increasing population. They feel the twinge of FEAR raise its ugly head in their bellies. Rationalizing their bad behavior of jockeying for position, fighting their way to the illusive “top”, buying, consuming or hoarding material possessions, and putting up barriers to deep, heartfelt human interaction are all acts generated by a FEARFUL EGO.

Only after the EGO no longer fears that there won’t be enough for it to survive, can it move from a place of fear, into a place of calm, a place of security, a place of LOVE, and start relating with maturity.

I told my friend to remind herself “This too shall pass” and keep supporting her own child’s little ego by continuing to love him unconditionally. By acknowledging him, seeing the light of spirit within him and giving him a good example to emulate, she will have done her part in making the world a more peaceful place. To be a Parent is to be a Spiritual Warrior! NAMASTE!
originally published March 26, 2010

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